Places
Distance is the key concept here. An element of strangeness, the unknown, the exotic, all this hints at the intriguing possibilities of romance. It helps to be recognizable, yet not so well known that familiarity trivializes the budding relationship, and yes, breeds contempt.
The course of love is rocky, by custom, tradition, and myth. Romantic
love thrives on adversity, on challenge, on resistance, on hindrances,
on barriers to be overcome, on prohibitions, on taboos to be broken,
on tension, on crises, on anguish, on despair, on secret meetings,
on stolen kisses, on forbidden touches, on disapproving parents, on
broken-glass topped walls that keep lovers apart. If matters proceed
too easily, too smoothly, then the excitement gradually leaks out of the
relationship, the tension dissipates, and matters slowly coast downhill
toward the dreaded pronouncement of "let's just be friends".
At work, you see the same women, day after day. This situation favors a measured approach to enlarging your circle of female acquaintances. If you are a bit leery of asking to be introduced to someone you wish to meet, you can always practice a bit of subtlety. Smile at her one day. See if she returns your smile. If so, make a routine of exchanging smiles every morning and evening. Begin to wave 'hello' to her. Finally, you might get to the point where you actually exchange a few words... and things may progress from there. The advantage of this strategy is that either of you can stop, or even retreat at any point in the process without undue embarrassment or trauma. |
Neighbors Friends Friends of friends People you grew up with Sisters of childhood friends
Introductions by family members and relatives
Matchmaking maiden aunts have been subjected to ridicule for generations, but they have helped many a lonely man find the woman who finally brought him happiness.
Religious services and functions
Sharing a common religious heritage and spiritual experience creates powerful bonds between people.
School (continuing education, alternative education, night school)
Classes where there would likely be a high proportion of women: Gourmet cookery Foreign language instruction Literature Creative writing Music and fine arts Philosophy Sewing, embroidery, weaving Crafts instruction (pottery, silversmithing, stained glass) Medical technology and nutrition New Age / spirituality (astrology, tarot, I Ching)
Reading clubs and literary circles Poetry readings Writers workshops Discussion groups Amateur entertainment nights (singing / playing instruments) Cultural events Museums Concerts Street fairs Flea markets Folk, square, and country dancing
Volunteer work and charity
Literacy programs Homeless shelters Soup kitchens Nursing homes Visiting the sick at local hospitals
Community organizations, meetings
Political organizations and activities (Join your local Democratic or Republican club) Block or neighborhood association School board
Sports
Bowling Tennis Badminton Volleyball Softball Skiing Swimming Bicycling Sailing Archery Miniature golf
Gaming Clubs
Board Games ----- ----- Your local Scrabble [TM] club, a great place to meet women and, incidentally, enjoy yourself. Chess clubs are attracting an increasing number of women. Bridge If you can't play, learn... A "fourth" for bridge is always in demand. Backgammon
Hiking
The premier hiking organization remains American Youth Hostels (AYH). Despite its name, there is no age limit for membership, and people of all ages participate in its day trips, bike/hike outings, and other activities. With its annual membership fee still at about $20 for adults, this is a great bargain.
Based on one person's experience of day hikes with the New York City chapter some years back, there always seemed to be a sufficiency of single women in the 20 - 60 year age group participating, certainly enough to keep things interesting. As the word got around that this was a good way for women to meet eligible men, the proportion of women to men on the trips increased from an average 1:3 to as high as 2:1.
AYH
8401 Colesville Road, Suite 600
Silver Spring, MD 20910
(301) 495-1240
(301) 495-6697 Fax
hostels@hiusa.org
http://www.hiayh.org
Supermarket shopping
Become a "regular" at your neighborhood store. Plan your shopping trips for the same days and times every week, and you will soon be greeted by name by the cashiers and the other shoppers, mostly women, will get to know you. If you have eight cans of single-serving spaghetti in your cart, that is a dead giveaway to every woman in sight that you live alone. A slightly "mussed" look, and a shirt with a button or two missing contributes to the impression that you are not being cared for, and in need of mothering. Expect to be approached.
"Singles" organizations
At the bottom of the list, deliberately. This is a last resort option . . . for the desperate.
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