A program of regular exercise and activity is none the less important for maintaining both physical and emotional health. By all means, run, walk, swim, hike, bicycle, lift weights, and even climb mountains. Keep at it, at least one-half hour daily, and make it part of your lifetime self-improvement project.
Exercise tones and "optimizes" the body... and the self-discipline involved tones and optimizes the mind.
Moreover, eat a sensible, balanced diet, with lots of veggies and fiber -
and avoid "junk foods". If you are fit and feeling fine, you will develop
a better self-image, take pride in your appearance, and be more confident
of your ability to cope with life's little surprises. Dealing with
people, and with women in particular, will seem less formidable.
If you wish to transform your life, the principle remains the same -
work on yourself first, then let the changes ripple out from you
into the outside world. This is as true in the matter of "upgrading"
your physical appearance as in all other things.
* At present, sharply defined rippling muscle bulk is in. Next
year coating yourself in mud and amputating body parts may be
"kewl". Considering how irrational and fad-driven pop culture is, one
never knows.